Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Does this Make Me a Bad Person?

1. I learned to read when I was younger.  I'm not just saying this because most people of the world can't read, but because
2. I finished Bossy Pants by Tina Fey in one night.  Yep, I'm exhausted, but what a good read.  I noticed that the parts I liked best were about
3. SNL doing the news update.  How many laughs did I get from that?  I'll probably never know.  A lot.

That's right.  I was up late reading Bossy Pants until about three.  I remember it being somewhere around two or so when I thought, "Meh.  Only forty more pages and I'll have finished it in one evening.  Let's do it."  As I may have bragged about on here before, I've been making my wife's breakfast (code for: putting milk in a container so she can have oatmeal once she gets to work, along with some fruit snacks and a piece of fruit or two).  Well, this morning, when she woke me up to 'make breakfast' she asked if I was awake, and I said "not really," or something of the like, with an air of, "Could you grab your own milk this morning."  I'm not sure what question she followed up with, but I do remember thinking, "That wasn't really a question, that was a command in question form."  So, I got out of bed and 'made breakfast.'

My reasons for starting making breakfast are two fold, and may rest on your philosophical beliefs about human nature.  On the one hand (if you believe humans have agency and genuinely care about each other) I was sad when I heard about how my wife would get sick during the day because she ate no breakfast.  On the other hand (and this one is for all you die hard Darwinians) I also heard that eating breakfast was a part of having a healthy, happy baby.  So, with both of my hands, I decided to start pouring milk into Tupperware making my wife breakfast.

I've been doing it with little complaint until this morning, but this morning's thoughts made me think, "Does me not wanting to do this make me a bad person?"  I mean, I was super tired, but it would seem that one would want to make their spouse happy right?  This then got me thinking about what actually would make someone a bad person.  Where is that line?  Or was Rodgers right all along and there really aren't bad people, just bad actions and labeling them as bad is a great way to label ourselves as bad, which will only lead to a belief that we cannot change our bad actions because they make up who we are, and who we are is a bad person.  I personally like Rodgers's ideas, because I don't like thinking that people are bad, because I'm a soft hearted dork.

So, I guess what I'm getting at here is, should I feel guilty about this morning, or chalk it up to part of the human experience and realize that waking up at six thirty will never be awesome when you've stayed up until three or four reading, no matter how much you love your spouse and unborn child.  I don't know.  To be completely honest, I'm kind of over it.  I'm just blogging about it because I find it interesting and want to know what people think.  To be honest, maybe it was bad of me to feel that way.  To be even more honest, maybe Rogers was full of it and it really does make me a bad person.  In any case, I'd like to know what you think.

Have a nice day.


  1. Nah, it doesn't make you a bad person at all. Just a sleepy one. Waking up on just a few hours sleep is sort of kick in the brainspaces and the post exhaustion guilt is just going to make for even less pleased brainspaces. So don't worry. Tomorrow's another day.

  2. It does not make you a bad person at all.

  3. No, it doesn't. Although I think that the reason you're asking is because you feel guilty?

    BTW, posted a cool artistic video, I think you'll appreciate it.

  4. Yes. Yes it does.


    No, really, we all go through that. Sometimes, when circumstances are just right, id gets to speak first before ego has a chance to keep him in check. Getting two or three hours of sleep is one of those "just right" situations.

  5. I don't think it makes you a bad person. I mean, very little sleep makes you not want to do many things. Just because it's one day, doesn't mean you did anything wrong. It just means you're tired. Now, if you quit completely... it could be different.

  6. @Haven
    Thanks. It's true, I don't think I've ever come up with anything super great when I've just woken up.

    Thanks guy.

    Thanks. I'm actually writing my next post completely from your comment.

    Speaking to the Psychologist in me huh? Yeah, I agree that there seem to be parts of us that keep each other in check, and off of what Haven said, it would seem that the id speaks pretty loudly in the morning.

    Thanks. That's pretty much what my wife said when she read the post. "Not wanting to isn't a problem, it's the not doing. Plenty of people hate waking up and going to horrible jobs so that they can feed their families. It's not like 'hating waking up' means that they hate their families. They love their families, they just hate waking up."

  7. Doesn't make you a bad person silly, or a bad husband, I get in those can't put a book down until i'm finished phases, and really it's just you that's paying for it in the end. I'm sure that's what she's thinking too..

  8. You are so NOT a bad person. You stayed up late, you got up early, you had a bit of a sookie la la moment. Perfectly normal.. LOL!

  9. Haha, thanks. I'm learning slowly. :)